Sunday, September 18, 2011

The Grass is NOT Always Greener.

Why do we always want what we cant have? And when it's right in front of our face, when it's ours we turn our back and walk away from it.

Exactly. Thank you.
What kinda twisted logic is that?

In relationships, when your with someone it's often easier to see all the things you don't like about them, than the things you love. All the things they do that annoy you, hurt your feelings, make you want to kick and scream like a 2 year old. It seems so easy to just quit, hop the fence and graze on the green grass across the street.

These days everyone has been conditioned to believe that they don't need, and shouldn't have to change for any body. It's like a bunch of adults roaming the planet sayin' I'm perfect just the way I am, no flaws, nothing to change. If you don't like me exactly how I am then screw you! I'll find someone who does, as they walk out to the desert to die alone.

Come on people! Who told you your perfect? Who told you that you should never have to compromise to be in a healthy relationship? How did an entire generation (s) of adults come to this retarded conclusion? I know it's shocking and probably a bit controversial to say...but your not perfect! No one is. To get love in this life and to be the half to a health relationships whole there must be compromise.

I'm not saying give up your morals, core belief systems, or who you are, but I am saying that a healthy amount of compromise is what is required to make a good relationship/marriage work. Without that you have one dominate party and one ultra submissive party. Then one day the submissive party is gonna snap like a disgruntled postal worker and from seemingly nowhere let all that steam rolling come back to bite you in the ass.

I'm guilty of this too. I have been guilty of both scenarios. I'm a very confident dominate women, it's not a good look for me to be paired with a very submissive man, (ex-husband/me ratio case in point). So for the first few years of being single, I was all I'm not settling for anyone or anything that's not perfect. I'm walking out on the first fight. If it's not easy it's not worth it. I'm still not willing to settle for less than I deserve, on any of my core expectations, but the difference is I've learned that when you do stumble across a rare find; the needle in the haystack...maybe it would be wise to fight for it rather then walk away.

So you don't find yourself in the ridiculous, but all too familiar predicament those of us dating adults often do...wanting what we can no longer have. Hind site is always 20/20 and I believe that everyone is brought into our lives to teach us something about ourselves, and their presence in our lives is a gift regardless of how it ends. And when it does end I've learned how to have peace knowing that Hustle.Believe.Receive. is working to bring the right person into my life. That the lessons I've learned from all the Mr. Wrong's have prepared me to more maturely, and appropriately receive Mr. Right.

 I'm glad somebody is getting this!



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Sarah Centrella is a Success Coach for professional athletes, the Reality TV show REVERSED, and anyone with a dream. She is also an author an motivational speaker.  Follow her on Twitter for motivation and inspiration, and sign up to be a Member of her blog for free coaching classes.

9 comments:

  1. This is very true!! Thank you for this amazing post, Sarah! Correct none is perfect, but two people can fit perfectly together and the difficulties they have with accepting and understanding their differences and flaws is a learning field and also the ultimate test of how much worth you really ascribe to all the good that's in that relationship. So if the good still outweighs the bad, then I would say it's a good deal. I mean nothing in life comes without sacrifices. And a relationship is always an adaption process from both parties. So as long as one does not become overbearing, it should be the optimum growing experience.

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  2. "And when it does end I've learned..." Reminds of I quote I made up that I think you should use for the people you talk too who might be doubting love or a relationship. Quote: "all the ones that didn't work out, were just preparing me for the ones that would"
    -Ace Cain <<< Famous name >>> @happiestalive

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  3. Thanks for sharing ur thoughts guys, love reading them!

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  4. There's a saying: The grass is always greener where you water it...
    Wherever we tend to our garden, that is where the flowers will bloom.

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  5. Very nice, I read something like that at www.Twippen.com

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  6. I was in a relationship for two in half months it was good, but one day he decided to tell me he liked someonelse, and he left me thinking the grass is greener on the otherside when it wasn't but he and her ended like three weeks, now hes posted on facebook hes single for life , karma hif never good to leave a person you like for person you love...

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